Avoiding calling queries when collecting active queries

[Zoxc]

This PR changes active query collection to no longer call queries. Instead the fields needing queries have their computation delayed to when an cycle error is emitted or when printing the query backtrace in a panic.

This is done by splitting the fields in QueryStackFrame needing queries into a new QueryStackFrameExtra type. When collecting queries QueryStackFrame will contain a closure that can create QueryStackFrameExtra, which does make use of queries. Calling lift on a QueryStackFrame or CycleError will convert it to a variant containing QueryStackFrameExtra using those closures.

This also only calls queries needed to collect information on a cycle errors, instead of information on all active queries.

Calling queries when collecting active queries is a bit odd. Calling queries should not be done in the deadlock handler at all.

This avoids the out of memory scenario in #124901.